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A space to chat fandom! Anon!

Got a WIP you're excited about? Want to rave about your fave? Or is your fandom absolutely in love with a character who detracts from every scene they bumble into, and you need somewhere to vent? You're in the right place!

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Re: Every time someone bashes yaoi...

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

I find it a bit funny that I end up arguing for slash and yaoi so much because I personally cannot stand yaoi, I think it is based on a lot of sexist tropes, and slash generally bores me. I don't like men's bodies and don't much want to picture them. I mostly write gen. So I suspect I recognise the feelings that are motivating those who are stridently against it, but to me the issues with yaoi are a symptom of deeper cultural issues, and those who treat it as the *cause* are just displacing anger they should be directing at men onto other women. And I'm very very glad I didn't fall into that trap because I could see past-teen-me going along with it because it matched up with my personal tastes. And I'm glad I met women who liked it so I got to find out that some people just like it, instead of wasting time psychoanalysing how they had acquired their preferences or assuming they couldn't think critically. :P

Re: Every time someone bashes yaoi...

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I don't think should slash be blamed for transing people without looking at the general culture, and liking dark fic doesn't make you degenerate, but... man, I've seen fic writers go down a path: start out writing slash that's only remarkable because it's higher quality than usual, start including more non-con, then some incest, fast forward and everything is bdsm or piss fetishes or similar. I don't know, maybe you can keep a Chinese wall between that and the rest of your life, I don't know these writers offline, but that's a progression that does make me worried/concerned, and I've never seen it go the OTHER direction.

Re: Every time someone bashes yaoi...

[(Anonymous)]

Huh, I've not seen that yet (I've seen people write more extreme stuff over time, but not to the exclusion of other work). There's a big difference between what I like in fantasy and what I do irl, so I'd assume they're just desensitised to fictional stuff by default, or expressing things they were thinking about but scared to share earlier. I'm more concerned about people assuming that what they read'll be fun to try out, and I think that's where people really suffer atm because those conversations can't happen when people are so polarised. You can't say 'be careful; irl bdsm scene does not match up with what you're reading' when the camps are 'liking bdsm in fiction means you need therapy' and 'IT'S ALL GOOD NOTHING TO SEE HERE'. So then you get dodgy men false-teaming with women who enjoy fucked up fantasy, and I don't think that leads anywhere good.

Re: Every time someone bashes yaoi...

[(Anonymous)]

(meant to say 'forced-teaming' but false-teaming works too, I suppose)

Re: Every time someone bashes yaoi...

[(Anonymous)]

I write a lot of dark, nasty stuff (usually drawerfic) and I promise, I am a very boring person in real life. I just have an overactive imagination and a lifelong fascination with how awful people can be to each other.

I have also been in dark fic Discords and have seen that writing progression. It’s generally a case of like-minded people egging each other on like a bunch of edgelords, though you have enough people in fandom who are also in the kink scene that there’s bleedover from that when they realize there’s an audience for writing what they know, but in the latter case, the kink scene involvement is usually preexisting and the writing (or at least the author’s notes) is usually a lot preachier.

Re: Every time someone bashes yaoi...

[(Anonymous)]

DA I find it funny that I defend it as much as I do, too. I haven’t been interested in writing it for years, mostly write het, femslash, and gen, but like you, I see the issues as reflecting deeper cultural issues. Yaoi feels like it is a coping mechanism, not a cause.

Re: Every time someone bashes yaoi...

[(Anonymous)]

Yes. I think for some it's a coping mechanism, and some people just like it because people are strange. :P I think the people who get unhealthily obsessed would do so with anything, and it just happens that that's what was in front of them at the right time, and/or offered them community when they struggled to make friends otherwise, etc. I find it funny because I stumbled across my first explicit m/m when I was 12, and went "wtaf", wandered off, then got involved in fandom years later via a totally different route, and yaoi was of course super popular. So I'd try to read it because, hey, if you wanted lots of fic, that's where it was! It was a big part of the culture! But I couldn't stand it. Non-yaoi m/m was slightly better but it was more that I enjoyed everything but the m/m aspect and could look past it. It was obvious that I wasn't getting from it what other women in my fandom were getting from it. But also, they were normal people (well, geek-normal :p); they were always pleasant to talk to and they weren't glomping strangers or hitting them with paddles or some shit. Whereas, I've met that type. There are pre-existing personality disorders. Going after the art they like isn't going to resolve that.